Panchita, Isabel Allende’s mother, once said, “Everything can be handled elegantly and without noise.” Isabel disagreed. “There’s no feminism without noise,” she writes. I just read Allende’s book The Soul of a Woman. Some of the book is very interesting, and some of it is not so interesting. –Joy
Feminism
by resolutewoman on October 17, 2023 in balance, resolute-women, sexism
“The patriarchy is stony,” writes Isabel Allende. “Feminism, like the ocean, is fluid, powerful, deep and encompasses the infinite complexity of life. It moves in waves, currents, tides and sometimes in storms.” I just read Allende’s book The Soul of a Woman. Some of the book is very interesting, and some of it is not […]
Dianne Feinstein
by resolutewoman on September 30, 2023 in character, resolute-women, sexism
“Toughness doesn’t have to come in a pinstripe suit,” Dianne Feinstein once said. Feinstein died on September 29, 2023. She was 90 years old, the longest serving woman senator.
Good role models
by resolutewoman on May 30, 2023 in girls, reading, resolute-women
Qian Julie Wang decided that she would become a lawyer. An avid reader, Wang explains, “I had come upon and gulped down condensed biographies of Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Thurgood Marshall. Ruth and Thurgood showed me that lawyers didn’t have to be men, and they didn’t have to be white.” Wang, author of Beautiful Country, […]
The perfect affirmative-action baby
by resolutewoman on May 11, 2023 in courage, resolute-women
Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor says that she is “a product of affirmative action. I am the perfect affirmative action baby. I am Puerto Rican, born and raised in the south Bronx. My test scores were not comparable to my colleagues at Princeton and Yale. Not so far off so that I wasn’t able to […]
Defining your worth
by resolutewoman on May 9, 2023 in advice, character, confidence, resolute-women
“I do know one thing about me: I don’t measure myself by others’ expectations or let others define my worth,” says Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor.
No need to apologize
by resolutewoman on May 6, 2023 in change, confidence, resolute-women
Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor says that she has no need to apologize. The “look-wider, search-more affirmative action” that Princeton and Yale practiced opened doors for her. “That was its purpose,” she explains, “to create the conditions whereby students from disadvantaged backgrounds could be brought to the starting line of a race many were unaware […]
Great period
by resolutewoman on May 2, 2023 in book, resolute-women, sexism
The cover of the book Great Women Painters includes these three words—great women painters, but a colorful line crosses out the word women. “The title of this book states its mission,” writes Marissa Moss in a review in The New York Times. “By including the descriptor women, but crossing it out, claim is clearly made: […]
Great women painters
by resolutewoman on April 29, 2023 in resolute-women, sexism
Linda Nochlin, an art historian, once asked, “Why have there been no great women painters?” Marissa Moss, writing in The New York Times, says Nochlin and the book Great Women Painters answer the question in the same way—“by showing us a range of brilliant, talented women painters. “Because the answer is that there have always […]
Prostitution and pornography
by resolutewoman on April 2, 2023 in book, resolute-women, sexism, Uncategorized
In 2011, after Manal Al-Sharif was went to prison for driving in Saudi Arabia, the country’s highest religious council presented a report warning of the dire consequences if women were allowed to drive. Prostitution, pornography, homosexuality and divorce would “surge,” they declared. What’s more, “within 10 years, there would be no more virgins” in Saudi […]
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