My brother James and his wife Jeany have 14 turkeys on their nine acres in New Mexico. That 14 includes five babies and one mother about to give birth. I never knew that turkeys could be so beautiful, so elegant until I saw these turkeys. They are a beautiful part of nature. As John Muir […]
Catastrophizing
by resolutewoman on February 7, 2023 in animals, courage, overwhelmed
My neighbor took a photo of a bobcat one morning recently—at the house across the street from ours. Yikes! We overreacted—and worried about our dog Jack—and all of the smaller dogs and the cats in the neighborhood. Disaster! However, my friend Mary, a retired biologist, didn’t panic. “How exciting,” she said. “Not very many people […]
Peace of the parrot and the chickens
by resolutewoman on August 16, 2022 in animals, families, peace, Uncategorized
I am returning to Dallas from a visit with my brother James and his wife Jeany. They live on nine acres in Los Lunas, a small town outside Albuquerque. However, their home and the acres that surround it seem worlds away from Dallas. We gather eggs from the chickens and cook them for breakfast. We […]
Hell on women and horses
by resolutewoman on July 12, 2022 in animals, sexism
It’s hot in Texas this summer, which reminds me of some wise words from the writer Molly Ivins. In an article in the August 1987 issue of Ms. magazine, Ivins wrote: “They used to say that Texas was hell on women and horses. Don’t know why they stopped. It still is.” –Joy
A Rabbit Day
by resolutewoman on December 18, 2021 in animals, happiness, holidays
I am getting excited about Christmas. I think it’s a Rabbit Day—as described by M.H. Clark in the book Tiger Days. On Rabbit Days, I’m wide awake I run and skip and jump. And, when I start to hop and hop, It feels like I might never stop. –Joy
A Rabbit Day
by resolutewoman on December 14, 2021 in animals, happiness, holidays, Uncategorized
I am busy! I made a pecan pie yesterday. I am decorating the house for Christmas today. Tonight, I am going to dinner at a restaurant that features Elizabethan carolers singing while they stroll from table to table. I am getting excited about Christmas. I think it’s a Rabbit Day—as described by M.H. Clark in […]
Tiger Days
by resolutewoman on December 11, 2021 in animals, holidays, things-to-do
Yesterday we installed Christmas lights in the bushes in our front yard, hung our stockings and removed boxes of Christmas decorations from the closet. It was a Tiger Day—as described by M.H. Clark in the book Tiger Days. On Tiger Days, I want to climb. I want to climb and I’m fierce. I pace around […]
A snail day
by resolutewoman on December 9, 2021 in animals, holidays, overwhelmed, patience
I’ve written Christmas cards, mailed packages and invited friends to my house for a birthday lunch. Today I am moving at a slower pace, and I am reminded of lines from a children’s book—Tiger Days by M.H. Clark. On snail days, I go slowly In everything I do. And, I might take a Little while, […]
A pandemic diet
by resolutewoman on February 25, 2021 in animals, change, health
Lose weight fast! It’s easy. Results guaranteed! When we took our canine companion Jack to the veterinarian last September, we got bad news. Jack, our Brittany, weighed 55.1 pounds. That was too much Dr. Merrill announced. She told us exactly how many calories Jack should eat every day. We checked the nutrient information on Jack’s […]
Happy Birthday, Jane Goodall
by resolutewoman on April 4, 2020 in animals, resolute-women, Uncategorized
Yesterday—April 3, 2020—was Jane Goodall’s 86th birthday. Happy Birthday to an amazing woman! Goodall still works tirelessly to protect chimpanzees and other animals—and our environment. This is one of my favorite Jane Goodall quotes. “Every individual matters. Every individual has a role to play. Every individual makes a difference.”
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